Life is about growing up, falling in love, and dying. Of course there is more added to that but normally that what happens most of the time. We regularly go through this without wanting it. We grow up because the experiences we have, mostly bad experiences, but we don't want to have bad moments. We don't decide when we fall in love or for who we fall. As a matter of fact, we seem to fall for the wrong people most of the time. Also in the end we all die, we don't know the day or the time. But when all this happens we never consider, what can we do if in the middle of this we get obsessed with someone?
First for all of you who don't know what being obsessed is; is when you like someone way too much and at the end you don't like that person anymore, instead you start feeling like you need and want that person with all you have. This is a really troublesome situation nobody wants to be in. If you are in this situation don't feel bad, every day more people become obsessed with someone against their will. It is really painful too because some times this person doesn't even acknowledge you or have something with you. It CANNOT be controlled. Neither easy to get out of. This is when you know people are stupid, when they say you are obsessed with someone because you want to. It might apply in some cases that's true, but most of the time it doesn't apply at all.
Now lets's talk about what's important in here: how to get over someone you are obsessed with. Each situation differs from another.
I'm ready to move on
These are the people who really want to get over that person as soon as possible. They just want to be free to do what they want without being thinking about what someone else is doing. This kind of people really want to be better in life.
It takes time, don't panic. Especially if that person goes to the same school you do or lives close to you. The first step is to recognize that you don't like that person. Then the next step is to want to move on. Just a strong person can overcome this. If you are not one, rely on someone that you know that cares about you. It can be a friend or a cousin. It doesn't matter as long as you obtain the support you need.
Next, set up goals. With this I mean goals like, avoid that person whenever you see him/her, delete him/her from every social media account you have (or at least block them or something like this). Do NOT care about what other might say or think when you are doing all this. They ain't living what you are living, therefore they don't know the feeling. Most important, while doing all this remember to be yourself because if you decide to act like someone else you are just going to make a bigger mess out of the situation.
I know this doesn't seem like it is going to work. But that depends on you and the goals you set. As I already stated it takes time. This works. Don't be impatient.
I like feeling this
For this category I don't have a lot to say. Just that you are stupid. If you like chasing someone who doesn't care for you, you are just pathetic. You don't even deserve the sorry people feel for you. But be who you want and do what you want. That is not my business.
I don't know whether I'm obsessed or not
I don't have a lot to say for this either. You just have think about the someone you like/love and focus deeply about the feeling. Then, use the facts, what that person does to you and stuff like that. When you do this you will know whether you are or not.
(This mostly works when you are not having a relationship with the person.)
Special case.....
Once I said that all situations have a special case. In this case, is if you are obsessed with your ex. That's really a tough one to be in. A lot of people might confuse this with no letting go. They are two different things. When you are obsessed with your ex, you stalk that person, ruin your ex's possibilities to be with someone else. This is why some times when you act like this people don't think that you are mad at that person because something he/she did to you. Instead, they think you are obsessed (which might be the case). Reason for which you should watch what you say about or do to your ex. You might be so obsessed and you don't even know it. Hatred can also be obsession if you think about it.
