Best Friends = Treasures

Today I decided to post something more personal. I hope you guys enjoy it and understand why I'm posting this.

Before I moved to US two years ago, I used to live in a little country called the Dominican Republic (DR). There I went to a school where I met a lot of people. Some of them I liked. Others I didn't like a lot. Also, I met a lot of people I didn't talk to but I liked them (Bubu was one of those people).

One day out of the blue this guy I met at school hit me up on Twitter. I was like how the heck did this guy got my username. I didn't want to be mean so I decided to tweet back. After that we started talking more often. Within a couple weeks we added each other on Facebook. It was a lil weird though, I have to admit it.

That summer we talked every day, we video called, we tweeted a lot. And I realize this guy was really nice and a good friend. I trusted him but I still didn't trust him enough to tell him a couple of personal stuff. Let's say we weren't that intimate yet.

I remember one day I was crying all over the place and I felt horrible. I was on Facebook looking for one of my friends but no one was on but the random guy of my school. That was the first day I actually trusted this guy a 100% and told him everything. He was there for me when my other friends were. On March 30, he told me I was his best friend and I didn't know what to think. I found it weird at first but then I realized he was that for me too. My best friend, my confident, and that little voice that tells me when I'm wrong.

A month ago I got the opportunity to see this person like a best friend for the first time. It was kinda of awkward at first but then things went by easy. Last thing I remember is that he was playing the guitar at the same moment I was singing. People even stopped in front of my house to listen to us. I can say that was the best part of my summer.

If you are reading this you know this is for you thanks for being here every time I need you. You can always count on me don't forget that. You know I love you with all my heart Bubu. ^-^

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For all of you who didn't get why I wrote this.

I wrote this because I just want to let you guys know that your friends and best friends were once strangers to you. You need to give yourself a chance to meet new people. Maybe you can be like me and become best friends with someone who lives far from you. With this I'm not telling you to tweet everyone you see, add everyone on Facebook or ask for everyone's phone number. I just want you guys to know that no all strangers are bad people.

Problems with Second Chances (en español)

¿Nunca has tenido un ex qué no importa que pase entre ustedes dos siempre quieres volver con esa persona?¿Y qué cuando esa persona quiere volver contigo al final terminas cediendo? En sí es lo mas lógico que puedes hacer si amas a esa persona, ¡¿no?! ¿Pero alguna vez te haz preguntado porque terminaron desde un principio? ¿O la razón por la que esa persona quiere volver contigo? Para ser realistas, todos sabemos que las personas no cambian de parecer así de fácil.

La verdad es que no lo hacemos. No nos detenemos a pensar porque la idea de regresar, de tener algo de nuevo con esa persona nos gusta mucho más de lo que pensamos y no vemos las consecuencias que tal acción nos puede causar. Nos gusta tanto que no pensamos sobre lo que puede pasar mañana o con nuestro futuro. Tal ves eso es el amor. Rendirnos ante nuestros deseos sin pensar en nuestra situación.  Pero la pregunta más importante es si esto es lo mejor que podemos hacer o no.

Es bien raro cuando oyes que una pareja que término hace varios años han vuelto a ser novios y actúan como que es la primera vez que están juntos.  ¿Porqué pasa esto? Fácil, porque aveces el amor no es suficiente para mantener una relación a flote. Qué situación más difícil de creer, ¡¿verdad?! Cómo sea, deberíamos enfocar la más en las experiencias que tenemos. ¿Quién te garantiza que esa persona no va a cometer los mismos errores de nuevo? ¿O qué ahora si te merece? Este no es un momento para tomar decisiones al azar. Debes pensar más en ti. No seas tan ajeno. Pensar no te hace pero las decisiones al azar si.

Se que aveces podemos dar una segunda oportunidad no sólo porque creemos que esa persona lo merece, pero porque también nos queremos dar una segunda oportunidad a nosotros mismos. ¿Porqué? En verdad no se. Tal vez para probarnos a nosotros mismos que podemos ser mejores, que podemos cambiar las cosas si queremos. El mejor consejo que puedo darles es que sean honestos con ustedes mismos y piensen en todas las opciones que tienen antes de actuar. Con malas decisiones podemos dañar relaciones que tenemos con nuestros padres, amigos y familia. Las segundas oportunidades no son un derecho que se le otorga a cualquiera. Ellas tienen que ser ganadas con sacrifico. Y si decides intentarlo con esa personas una segunda vez entonces hazlo; da todo lo que tienes si es lo que quieres hacer. En caso de que esta persona te desilusione de nuevo déjala ir. Conoce nuevas personas y sigue a delante. Sólo un/una estupid@ haría sufrir a una persona que "quiere" dos veces. Y créanme hay muchos de esos donde sea que vayan.

Ahora desde mi punto de vista yo no creo en volver con una persona después que terminan o se dan un "tiempo". Pienso que si puedo ahorrarme el dolor y las malas noches lo haré. Todavía no he conocido a alguien que valga las lágrimas de una persona, incluyendo las mías. Y estoy más que 100% segura de que no lo haré. Piensen, quien no aprovecho una primera oportunidad, no va a aprovechar otra. Nunca olvides que necesitas enseñarle a esa persona que has cambiado. Que ya no eres la persona de antes. Que eres fuerte e inteligente. Y lo más importante, que no estas dispuesto a que rompan tu corazón de nuevo.

Problem with Second Chances

Do you ever had an ex that doesn't matter what happens between you two you always want that person back? And when that person tries to get you back you actually give in? Well, this is the most appealing thing to do if you really love that person, isn't it? But do you ever ask yourself why did you guys split up? Or why is that person trying to get you back? 'Cause really people don't change their minds that easily.

Truth is that we don't. We don't think about it 'cause we like the idea for getting back with that person way too much to think about consequences. To care about about tomorrow and about our future. Maybe that's what love is all about. Giving in to your desires without giving to much thought to the situation. The big question is whether is this the right thing to do or not.

Is really weird when you hear that a couple broke up and after a couple years they got back and started all over again. Why is this? 'Cause sometimes love is just not enough to keep a relationship afloat. Hard to believe, right? However, instead of being thinking that love can overcome everything; we should focus more on the facts and experience we have. Like really, who guarantees you that that person will not make the same mistakes again? Or that he or she worth it? Really, this isn't like a moment where you have to guess what to do with your life. You should think more about yourself. Don't be so reckless. Thinking won't harm you but guessing will. Be proactive, be smart.

I know sometimes we might give second chances not only 'cause we believe that person deserves it, but 'cause we want to give a second chance to ourselves. Why? I don't know. Maybe we want to prove ourselves we can do better, that we can change things if we want to. The best advice I can give is to always be honest with yourself and weight the options you have. With such decisions we can damage multiple relations with our parents, friends, and family. Second chances are not just rights that you have to give to every human being. They are something that has to be earned with sacrifices. And if you decide to give it a second try then do it, and give all you have if that's what you want no one can't stop you. In case that person disappoints you again let it go. Meet new people and move on. Only a jerk will make someone suffer twice. And trust me, there are a lot of those everywhere.

However, I don't believe in getting back with someone after a break up. I think if I can save myself some pain I will do so. I haven't yet meet the person who is worth someone's else tears, including mines. And I'm sure I will never do so; 'cause no one that didn't take advantage of a first chance, will take advantage of a second one. Never forget that we need to show them we have changed. That we ain't the same person we were before. That we are stronger. And most important, that we ain't willing to get our hearts broken again.